SO, you’ve spent X amount of time with a guy. Now, for whatever reason you’re split up. Break-ups can be a hard thing. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of tactics to help you cope with a breakup. Read on girl!
MAGAZINES! MAGAZINES! MAGAZINES! They help take your mind away from your problems, and can be very inspirational. Read magazines with love articles, health advice and funny stories. What are you waiting for. Brew a delicious cup of cocoa and get reading!
When times get their hardest, it’s helps to think that there’s people worse off than you. Something that works for me is to think about the people out there who have had to get a divorce after years of marriage or people who have lost loved ones to death. Keep reminding yourself that if someone out there has been through worse, then you’ll be fine too!
While everyone around you is likely saying you should go out to get your mind off him, try turning them down a couple nights. Sometimes we just need to be alone. It’s really hard to go out and have a genuinely good time when you’re hurting, especially when everyone else seems so happy. Plus, when you’re out you always feel pressure to be laughing and smiling so you don’t seem unappreciative of your friends efforts.
While at home, think a lot about all the good things that will happen in the future and do things that make you feel comfortable & happy.
WORK OUT! Ughhhh... I know it’s hard. I promise that once you get started it will get a lot easier. Working out pumps feel-good chemicals to the brain, which you desperately need right now. BONUS: You’ll get a killer body and be able to walk past the ex and show him what he lost!
Eat healthy. Don’t let some dude get you depressed AND mess up your health. Come on, you’re stronger than that! Try your best not to gorge on fattening foods. Believe me, he’s not. Introduce a lot of nuts, fruits, veggies, yogurt, eggs and water into your diet. All these foods help to stabilize your hormones and keep you thinking clearly. If you’re really emotional try a calcium supplement. Calcium is said to alleviate mood-swings and depression.
ACCEPTANCE. You need to accept 2 things right now. 1)You’re going to hurt for a while. This doesn’t go away over night. Sorry. 2) It is OVER. A lot of people cope by thinking maybe in a while there will be a chance to rekindle the relationship. This holds you back from moving on, and actually causes you to back peddle. What if you were to spend two months thinking you were going to get back together, then he told you he’s moved on? You’d have to start ALL OVER AGAIN! Not fun!
Try your hardest to look at your relationship with him as an experience rather than a mistake. Even if you two can’t stand each other right now, you’ve likely learned quite a bit from him and vice versa. No matter what, the relationship happened. You can’t take it back, so treat it as an experience. Besides, if you look at it as a mistake, you’ll start to get down on yourself for your decision making abilities. You don’t need that right now. You’re going through enough.
If you have your ex on a pedestal, get him off. Don’t jump every time you hear the phone ring, don’t respond to his e-mails immediately and don’t look at him as some sort of God. You need to really practice self-control. The more you teach yourself to hold back when the phone rings, the faster you’ll begin to train yourself to see that he’s just another person.
Don’t compare yourself with your friends. We tend to think of things like “Why are (insert female name) & (insert male name) doing so well in their relationship.” This isn’t about anybody else. I’m sure every couple has their fair share of problems. If you compare with your friends who have successful relationships, you might end up getting jealous and in turn lash out. Instead, look at your friends with good relationships as examples. Watch what they do to keep a healthy relationship going, and take tips! You’ll have that someday too!
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you seem like you just can’t cope and the pain is unbearable, then talk to someone. Talk to a parent, a best friend and if you need to, call a help line. You’ll get through this one step at a time. It’s the steps you take to get there that matter. Doing anything that could ever hurt yourself is like letting the world win. You’re worth SO much and everyday we have to fight against the world, but it only makes us stronger! SO, crank up “stronger” by Kanye West and bust a move. GOOD LUCK girl, we know you can do it! XOXO.
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