Quit pulling petals from flowers to try to find out if he likes you or not. Below are TWO seperate lists. List #1 is meant to help you find out if he's interested and you KNOW HIM fairly to extremely well. List #2 is made for those of you crushing on a guy you don't know. These are two totally different situations and there will be different signs. Now read on!
If You're crushing on a guy you know fairly to extremely well, he may also like you if:
Look at your facebook/myspace mesages. Does it seem as though he sends YOU a message first most of the time? If he sends you messages at the most random times, he's likely always thinking about you. Also, he's putting his pride aside for you by always sending you a message even after you haven't written to him in a while. BONUS: if it seems like everytime a guy FRIEND of yours writes you a message, he writes one right after... (and usually a sweeter or more funny one), then he's interested and actually competing for your attention. Awww, so cute.
If you notice he is more confident talking to you via text or on instant messanger, there could be a good reason for that. In general, guys are very straight forward and to the point. Their personalities don't fluctuate unless they're trying to impress you. So pay close attention. If he can come out and say "you're cute" or "I would love to find a girl like you one day" then he's likely telling you the things he thinks about, but doesn't have the confidence to tell you in person. It's easier to be rejected when the other person can't see your reaction.
You've only mentioned your Birthday a couple of times since you've known him, yet come Birthday time he's the first to send you his wishes. As you already know, guys aren't very detail oriented at all. Infact, ask him if he knows his Mother's Birthday and he's likely to say something like " I only know because my Dad reminds me." It really is a big deal if he remembers your special day. It means he pays close attention to you. He might even read your horoscope sometimes... you never know!
You're bummed, and he can tell. This is a biggie. Guys don't just pick up on subtle signs like girls do. They usually don't know when you're sad, mad or just your normal self unless you give them a significant hint. So, if he can tell you're bummed out... he pays close attention to you. BONUS: It's a given if he stays up with you all night talking about whatever it is that has you down.
It seems like everytime you talk to him he mutters something like "sooo, what are you up to this weekend?" Really, if he thinks of you as nothing more than just a friend, he wont CARE what you're doing every weekend. However, if he is asking you this often, it's because he wants to weasle his way into your weekend if you have nothing planned already. It's most likely him easing his way into asking you to do something with him. If you like him, try not to be unavailable EVERY SINGLE TIME he asks you this. You'll give him the wrong message.
He always seems to be trying to get you to listen to his new fav' album or song or watch his favorite movie. This is an indication he likes you because it's his way of opening up. He wants you to know all about him and his interests. He could also be looking to find something in common with you. If you're also into him, the best thing to do is show him you're up for hearing this new "amazing" album of his or watching his fav' movie if he'll watch your favorite movie next time!
You call his house and someone from his fmaily answers. You ask to speak to him and they say "sure just a second" then you hear them yell "(insert your name here) IS ON THE PHONE FOR YOU." The fact that they know it's you shows a couple things. First of all, he's likely not a player. If he was, his family would get really confused everytime a girl called. This also shows you that he might talk about you to his family. Chances are, if they know it's YOU right away, he's mentioned to them he was expecting a call from you.
It seems as though it's almost impossible for this guy to be in a bad mood around you. You know that high you get when you're seriously crushing on someone that you think you have a good chance with? Well, guys get that same high. So if he's in a good mood 99% of the time when you're around, it could be a good sign. TIP: If he's really diggin' you, he WILL get mad/annoyed if another guy is disrespecting you in ANY WAY. This is probably the only time you'll see him mad/upset when you're around.
His friends seem to praise him a lot when they're with you, but he's not around. They likely know he is interested in you, and are trying to help him out. Guys don't usually sit there and praise their other guy friends for no reason. However, they stick together and are usually pretty good at helping eachother out if they know they can. It's just like if you knew your best friend liked a certain boy, how you would probably tell him ALL the good things about her to try to hook them up.
He's friendly with your friends. Now this is one that's hard to catch because a lot of girls will take this as a sign that he's actually interested in your friends and not you. A good way to tell if he's warming up your friends to get closer to you? He seems totally at ease around them, but more tense around you. Sounds complicated, I know. The thing is, if a guy doesn't care about a girl in that way, he wont get nervous around her. If he does like a girl, he has something to lose and that scares him. That's why he will be more nervous and quiet around you if he likes you.
I really hope these tips help you out. Just remember that in the end, you're the best judge. The best way to find out is (ofcourse) to ask. Just say something casual like "would you ever date a girl like me?" Good luck!
IF YOU'RE CRUSHING ON A GUY YOU DON'T KNOW ALL THAT WELL (OR AT ALL), HERE ARE SOME HINTS TO TELL YOU IF HE COULD BE INTERESTED:
He randomly adds to as a friend to myspace/facebook or another site. There's a good chance he's noticed you before out at an event or at the mall or somewhere before. He may have even found out your name from a mutual friend, and searched for you so he could add you.
Pay close attention (without staring or being creepy) to his eyes. When a guy is looking at a friend, his eyes will be calm and relaxed. If you catch him looking at you, and his eyes are bigger than usualy and seem uneasy, it's a good sign he is interested. He doesn't want to get caught looking at you, which is why his eyes will look different when he's checking you out. Just pray it's not because you have lipstick on your teeth or something.
His freinds sem friendly. They might not come over and start a conversatoin, but a nod or quick smile from one of his plas could indicate he's pointed you out to them. You'll also botice that no matter how great you look, his friends wont be looking you up and down or throwing out pick up lines. If they know their friend is interested, they'll (hopefully) respect that and be nothing more than friendly towards you.
Do you fall into his "type" category? Most peple have a "type." I'm not just talking hair color, height, weight, etc. It's a combination of things. For instance, do you normally see him with athletic girls, who always make honour roll and have very muscular bodies? Or is he generally the type to date and hang out with ditzy, glamour girls? If you are his type, you have a good chance with him. Sometimes guys have various types though, so this can be a hard one. Since you don't know eachother, all he has to go by is what type of girl you SEEM to be. NEVER EVER change yourself to fit his ideal girl though. This is tupid, shallow and any guy could see right through this. Be yourself no matter what.
At social gatherings he tends to always end up near you. There could be thousands of people there, yet everytime you turn around - there he is (hopefully in a cute and not creepy way). This doesn't count if you're the one following him around though. If you notice yourself doing that, stop. Then see if he starts to linger near you.
He's making small talk, When a guy is interested in a girl he doens't know very well, plan on there being plenty of small talk. He doens't want to creep you out and get too personal, but he's still going to get to know the basics. "what do you do for fun" & "what a nice day out" will probably top his small talk list of questions. Hey, atleast he's trying.
He respects your guy friends. He's aware that he'll have to get through them to get to you. Basically he'll want to get on their good side so he can have a chance with you. So if yu notice him getting friendly with more than one of your guy plas, it could be to get closer to you.
Your friends tell you he likes you! Most of the time, our freinds are the first ones to pick up on signs that we just don't see. Plus, they aren't afraid or nervous to look at him, so they'll catch every little glance he shoots your way.
He blinks more when you're around. Sounds weird, but it's been proven that a guy will blink more often that usual when there's a girl of interest around. Also, did you know that: 55% of human communication is body language? 38% is intonation, or the tone we use when we speak and ONLY 7% is verbal? So, if you really want to pick up on subtle clues, pay attention to body language and pay very close attention to his eyes.
He completely ignores you. Yup, that's right... IGNORES YOU! Sound strange? Well, certain guys (not all of them) actually try to spark your interest by acting like they don't know you exist. They're well aware of the fact that people want what they can't have, so he tries to make himself unavailable to you so that you'll pursue him. This particular sign is still hard to completely understand, but just keep it in mind.
And there you have it. I hope these tips help. Just remember, they're only tips. Every person is different, and every guy will show he likes you in different ways. Don't ever solely rely on tips to tell you, rely on your gut too!
Good Luck!
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